It’s been two weeks since I moved back into my parents’ house. After graduation I spent the majority of my summer in Pittsburgh, but now I’m home. I can’t lie to you guys, living in the suburbs away from my friends is definitely going to be an interesting adjustment. It feels so bizarre to see people I know on social media going back to my alma mater this week. I already miss it so dearly, but lately I’ve been finding some new ways to feel better about my new situation.
The main thing to remember is that I am not stuck. This is not permanent. I am here for a short period of time while I make a transition in my life. It’s a big one. And I’m honestly lucky to have parents who are still choosing to support me.
I’ve found it’s all about shifts in perspective and doing whatever you can do make where you are the best it can be. You only give power to what you let control you. If you’re like me and you’re finding it hard to stay sane in suburbia, or you just feel like you can’t move forward from where you are, here are some things I’ve been thinking about lately that have been helpful to me.
Only allow yourself a few moments to worry about how long this particular situation will last. If you worry it will be forever, forever it might become. I am no stranger to letting my anxieties and fears prevent me from making big moves or even sometimes just participating in life fully. My goal moving forward is to worry less about the possibility of something failing in the long-term.
Allow yourself thoughts of doubt and worry because if you’re like me at all, they will come up, but do your best not to let them consume you. If you have any worries, face them head on and make that your motivation to push even harder.
Take it one day at a time. Try to remind yourself that each day has the potential to be vastly different from the last. Also, sometimes change happens slowly and that’s okay.
Redirect your energy into something that will drive you forward. Invest your time wisely and put in the work you need to move out of the situation you may be in. Nothing will magically change overnight. Set goals and let them fuel you.
Make your current situation as ideal as it can be for the time being. Do anything you can to make yourself happy where you are right now. Go on longs walks with yourself, reorganize, make something. I decided to reorganize and rearrange my bedroom, because I want to make my space a place where I can be comfortable and inspired. I’ve also been trying to eat well and exercise regularly, because it makes me feel good and helps me stay motivated. Focus on doing what makes you happy, letting everything else just simply exist for a little while.
(Note: I do not claim to be an expert on any of this, but keeping these things in my mind is really helping me get through this tough patch. This is more a written guide for myself than anything else).
Change is good. And I’m not stuck, I’m scheming. I’m refocusing my energy into something big and something important. I’m excited for what comes.
While I’m at it, I’m going to hopefully post on this blog more frequently. I’m going to try to hold myself to a schedule this time so you should be seeing much more of The Now. Expect more fashion, food, and unsolicited advice in the near future.
So, until then… have a fantastic week and I’ll be back soon!